It’s hard enough to figure out what women want on a daily basis, so figuring out what they want to see on your dating app profile seems downright impossible. That’s in part because women are super cautious when it comes to meeting someone online, and for good reason: approximately 57 percent of women have been harassed on a dating site or app, according to 2016 research. Additionally, men swipe right three times more often than women do, according to the New York Times.
So if you’re a man using dating apps to find a relationship, you have the odds stacked against you. Fortunately, there’s one surefire way you can make yourself stand out from the crowd: pick a good photo. A good photo can increase your chances quite a bit. We asked dating experts about the biggest mistakes guys are making on dating apps when it comes to choosing their photos — and what they should be doing instead.
“What we’ve noticed is that girls are more inclined to take pictures,” says Melissa Hobley, CMO for OkCupid. “Guys are less included to do so, so when guys find pictures of themselves the only ones they have are from Facebook or Instagram where they are out. If you want to not look like a party boy, you have to take pictures of yourself not partying.”
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“Don’t post any shirtless photos, and avoid creepy bathroom selfies,” says Erika Gershowitz, a professional match maker at Three Day Rule in New York City. “Actually, nix selfies all together. You want to have pictures of you smiling and doing things you love. Traveling, being around friends and family – this is what will attract the right women to your profile.”
You know how frustrated you get when you see a woman’s profile and she posts a bunch of sorority pics and you can’t tell which one is her? Women feel the exact same way when you post a group photo, so just don’t do it.
So what photos do work? Ones that convey your passions, whether that’s your latest Spartan Race, skiing, that glass of wine you drank in Spain, that car you raced, or that time you and your friends spent the day at the beach. (Got pets? According to OkCupid research, photos of guys with dogs get a ton of attention, says Hobley.) Use the photos to tell a story about who you are. Get creative. And if you’re really unsure about whether or not your photos are up to snuff, ask a female friend to take a look.
Source: Men’s Health